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Woman's Own - November 2003
"Unload a Husband, Haul in Riches"
By Karin Vaysburd

JILL ELLINGTON: Has she got a guy for you (and millions of other singles)! Jill Ellington's turbulent life and amazing determination to succeed are so dramatic, her story sound tailor-made for the movies. Married at 17, the Topeka, Kansas native has a 6-year-old by the time she divorced in 1986 at 23. Having lived with an abusive husband, she wanted to set a better example for her daughter. She worked full-time in an administrative role in a neurological institute and took college courses in psychology. In the meantime, she says, "I realized that it was important to be with someone who was my best friend, something my ex had never been." Based on that notion, she made an appointment at the small business development center, and wrote up a business plan. In 1991, she opened Friendship Exchange (friendshipexchange.net), a matchmaking service that focused on creating relationships that were more than skin-deep. She played matchmaker out of a small office above a fitness center in the evenings. One night, she was putting up flyers at the fitness center and a man asked her what she was doing. "When I told him about my new service, he told me I'd be out of businesses in six months," she said. But the two actually built a friendship. "After two years, we realized that we in love. We've been married for nine years, so I'd say that I am that I'm the best advertising for my service!" In 1992, Jill opened a second office in Kansas City, and by February 1993, she quit her day job to become a matchmaker full-time. She hand-picks client's dates and has been responsible for over 200 marriages so far! Over 600 clients pay $750 for a year-long membership. The Social Club membership costs $195 /year and doesn't include any personal matchmaking but does provide entrance into singles events.

The Capital Journal - October 9th 2003
"Rushing into Love"
By Kasha Stoll

Local matchmaker says fitting eight dates into one evening is easier, and cheaper, than spreading them throughout the month

At 39, Dennis Blackmore is ready to settle down. Meeting the right woman, however, is proving easier said than done.

He has tried the bar scene, been on blind dates and networked through his friends, all to no avail.

"It's hard to meet people my age in this town except at bars," he said. "I don't know where they go."

Blackmore isn't alone.

"There are a lot of singles, particularly over the age of 35, that are having trouble meeting others," said Linda Noland-Crique, the Topeka office manager of Friendship Exchange. "So many people are going on the Internet, trying to do it on their own."

Jill Ellington opened Friendship Exchange in 1991 after learning firsthand how difficult it was to re-enter the dating scene. She and Noland-Crique both found marriage mates through the company.

Club members meet with Ellington for a one-on-one interview and are screened to make sure they are single and don't have any felony convictions. They then are placed in a database Ellington uses to handpick dates. She said at least 200 marriages have resulted from her matchmaking skills.

She estimates another 100 marriages can be attributed to speed dating and progressive events but said she has no way of tracking those success stories. Because events are open to the public, Ellington can't screen all participants and doesn't guarantee accuracy of information. Blackmore tried a progressive picnic first. Six to eight people sat a table and enjoyed the first course and some conversation. After 20 minutes, the men moved to the next table where they met three or four other women and repeated the process. Blackmore said he enjoyed himself and made several friends, male and female.

Speed dating is built on a similar concept, but offers seven-minute, one-on-one dates. Ellington provides a list of questions that can be used to get the conversations started, such as, "If you could do anything you wanted on your day off, what would it be?" Or "If I walked into your house right now, what would it tell me about you?"

Blackmore came prepared with a list of his own. His first question was, "What kind of person are you definitely not?" Describing himself as perceptive, Blackmore said he felt seven minutes was enough time to learn whether he wanted to meet a woman again or not.

Arminda Guerrero, 28, attended the same speed dating event as Blackmore. She said the seven-minutes dates were just like any other date -- depending on the man she was with, they could be too short or way too long.

Neither Blackmore nor Guerrero found their soulmate that night, a concept that for Blackmore is overrated.

"The timing has to be right," he said. "The older you get, the more accommodating you get."

For years, Blackmore wouldn't date a woman with kids. Now, he said, it doesn't matter. He is just looking for someone with whom to share his life.

Guerrero, on the other hand, isn't interested in getting married. While she wouldn't shy away if she found Mr. Right, she is interested more in finding someone to hang out with.

Of the two events, Blackmore said he enjoyed the progressive picnic more.

"There were more people involved, and the conversation didn't seem so personal," he said.

Blackmore may be using a modern approach to finding a spouse, but his philosophy is based on a centuries-old fable.

"One frog down," he said. "And who knows how many others to kiss."

Kansas City Magazine - April 2003
Adults in the new world of dating out there
By Ann Slegman

So how does a boomer or older gen x'er meet new people when forced to make the dating scene again? Local dating services and online arrangements offer a surprisingly easy and refreshing array of match-making opportunities.

Fast Talking: Speed-Dating
...Chris, a 49-year-old divorced father of a teenager, tried Facilidate but found the three-minute time limit chaotic. "It was so demanding to get through 50 people. I felt beat up. Then I went to a speed-dating party through the Friendship Exchange. Instead of the three minutes, we had seven. I talked with eight women and matched with three. Thats a 37 percent success rate. There was just more time to get to know someone."

Matchmaker , Make Me A Match: Dating Services
Jill Ellington, owner of The Relationship Headhunters, or www.RelationshipHeadhunters.com, has been in the business since 1991 and has more than 600 active members. During her 12-year tenure, she has arranged more than 200 marriages. "I'm very selective in choosing my clients. They tend to be professional, and I do an evaluation to determine intersts, values, and backgrounds. I am more than just a salesperson; I do way too much in terms of customer service," she says with a laugh.

Ellington's typical client profile looks like this: divorced or never married white collar professional who doesn't smoke, drinks only moderately, is physically active, and is interested in the arts. She is able to send photographs and profiles by email.

Renee, a 39-year-old homemaker, met her husband the CEO of a manufacturing business, through The Relationship Headhunters. "Jill selected my future husband for me. Once we went out, we never wanted to see anyone else. My husband proposed to me after the third date. Since we've been married, we've traveled to Europe and own a house at the Lake of the Ozarks."

Comfort in Numbers: Singles Clubs/Religious Groups
An offshoot of Jill Ellington's Relationship Headhunters is the Friendship Exchange, a social club for single professionals seeking healthy lifestyles, friendships and relationships. She sponsers progressive dinners, speed-dating parties, and get-togethers four to six times a month, sometimes in her own home. "I believe in friendship first. And I love what I'm doing," says Ellington.
Copyright 2003 Kansas City Magazine
Transmitted April 2003